Work With Me

Some moments call for a spark, others for a steady hand—but the best ones? They need both.

Whether I’m commanding the mic, shaping an event from behind the scenes, or guiding people toward deeper self-expression, I bring a mix of intuition, experience, playfulness, and presence to everything I do.

I’ve been building shows, teaching workshops, and designing transformative programs since 2007—and over the years, that work has expanded to include coaching, speaking, and erotic content creation that’s deeply rooted in trust, autonomy, and integrity.

You can work with me solo, or tap into the magic of IJKINK, my creative partnership with my husband and real-life erotic collaborator. Together or apart, I bring a deep well of lived experience—and a love for helping people come home to their bodies, their voices, and their desires.

Here are some of the ways we can work together:

Host/Mistress of Ceremony

Looking for a sharp, sex-positive host who can hold the mic and the moment?

From themed soirées to immersive festivals, I’ve been hosting and emceeing live events for nearly 20 years—reading the room, creating connection, and bringing the perfect balance of charisma, mischief, and precision.

I’ve worked with:
Hubba Hubba Revue (San Francisco)
The Burlesque Hall of Fame Weekender (Las Vegas)
The Crocker Art Museum (Sacramento) —and more

If you want your event to flow smoothly, land with impact, and feel unforgettable—I’ve got you.

→ Hire me to host your next show, panel, or immersive event

Creative Collaborator

Have a project that needs heart, strategy, and sizzle?

With hundreds of live experiences under my belt—from burlesque to concerts to community pop-ups—I specialize in bringing creative visions to life with a passionate appreciation for the arts and solution-oriented approach.

I partner with creators, educators, and organizations who are building meaningful, sex-positive work. From creative direction and content development to program design and adult content creation, I bring big-picture thinking and grounded execution to the table.

Collaboration is where I shine. I’m a strategist, producer, and problem-solver who thrives in dynamic, multi-genre spaces. If you need someone to lead, shape, or sharpen your creative project, I’m here for it.

You’ll get someone who’s as invested in your vision as you are—and knows how to make it happen.

→ Let’s bring your project to life

Teacher/Coach

Let’s talk sizzle. Sizzle is more than stage presence—it’s confidence that lives in the body. It’s joy, connection, curiosity, and erotic intelligence showing up in real time.

My teaching blends erotic education, movement-based practices, and real-talk reflections for adults who are ready to get curious, courageous, and more connected. I offer workshops, speaking engagements, and guided intensives—online or in person.

Signature offerings include:
Foundations with Jay – a sensual movement practice for body connection and confidence
Burlesque for Your Lover – a playful, hands-on experience for teasing and tantalizing
Pleasure and Playfulness – embodied self-expression through joy, movement, and personal power

Custom sessions available for:
Couples
ENM Partnerships and Groups
Bachelorette Parties
Performance Troupes
Retreats or Special Events

My coaching sessions are built to help people connect with their own flavor of sensual power.

→ Book me to teach, speak, or lead an embodied experience

Something More? Surprise Me!

Got an idea that doesn’t fit neatly into the boxes above? 

Whether it’s a book signing, podcast guest spot, panel convo, custom NSFW creative project, or something too spicy to list—reach out. I love saying yes to things that feel aligned, creative, and connected.

→ Tell me what you’re dreaming up

Let’s Make It Happen

Use my contact form or email me directly to start the conversation. Tell me what you’re working on, and I’ll let you know how I can support it.

What People Say

Here’s what students, clients, and collaborators have shared about working with me
—on stage, in the studio, and in the heart of their own transformation.

  • “Working with Jay opened my eyes to things I hadn’t realized. She was patient, kind, enthusiastic, and motivated to meet all my expectations.”
    —     Barbara K. (2022, Napa, CA)

    “Jay is one of the most sincere professionals I’ve ever worked with. Her guidance and resources have helped me in many ways. She creates a learning environment that is safe and empowering, not competitive. Go for it!”
    —     Felecia S. (2021, Sacramento, CA)

    “Jay is an excellent instructor. She knows how to adapt her guidance to your personal goals—whether it’s just to try something new or to grow as a burlesque performer. Every session left me feeling pumped, energetic, and sexy.”
    —     Lara C. (2014–2021, Sacramento, CA)

    “She’s not only a dynamic performer; she’s also one of the best dance teachers I’ve ever had. She makes intimidating choreography feel achievable for anyone.”
    —     Alexa B. (2020, Sacramento, CA)

  • “I wanted to learn how to be sexy, but I had no idea I was going to learn how to radically love my own body, take control of my life, and meet the ‘me’ I’d been searching for. This will change your life. Be ready for that.”
    —     Kathryn T. (2014–2020, Sacramento, CA)

    “I was intimidated to try burlesque—I’ve had no dance training and the thought of seeing my body move like that in front of others was scary. Jay Siren has a way of putting those fears in the right place and motivating students to GET. DOWN. TO. IT.”
    — Aly R. (2017, Sacramento, CA)

    “Jay is an inspiring and genuine person who truly cares. She has motivated me to push myself and dive in where I might have otherwise hesitated.”
    —     Mars W. (2019, Auburn, CA)

  • “Foundations with Jay has not only given me the foundations of burlesque but the foundations of self love. Jay has fostered an environment where you can move without judgement from not only others but free of self judgement – and for that I will be forever grateful.”
    — Kaylee L. (2020, Sacramento, CA)

    “Thank you for bringing burlesque into my life! You’ve done wonders for my self-image, confidence, and acceptance of me in this present moment.”
    —     Emili D. (2019, Sacramento, CA)

    “I admit I had some hesitations about enrolling in a burlesque class because of my self-esteem. Despite that, I find myself having a blast each class and leaving feeling great!”
    —     Elise M. (2012, Yelp Review, Sacramento, CA)

  • “Jay quickly put everyone at ease with her dazzling personality. She brought out the fun, flirty side in each and every one of us—even the shyest ones! Her workshops should be in EVERYTHING.”
    —     L.J. (2013, Yelp Review, Sonora, CA)

    “Jay is an excellent instructor. I have taken both group performance classes and her solo performance series. She breaks things down into easy to understand increments. Making her participants feel comfortable no matter what level of dance experience they have. One of the best qualities she has is being able to adapt her instruction based on your individual goals, whether it is simply to try something new or move forward as a burlesque performer. Jay is extremely supportive and has a positive energy that is contagious. I always left my training session feeling pumped up, energetic, and sexy! When providing mentorship and guidance for a solo act, she provides thoughtful feedback and explains how she came to conclusions, so you can develop as a performer. I truly cannot say enough great things about Jay and her classes!”
    — Lara C. (2020, Sacramento, CA)

Inspired by what you’ve read?

If you’re ready to explore your own version of growth, play, and self-expression—we should talk.